Abortion Regret — Men

Nobody Asks How You're Doing. But You're Grieving Too

No pressure, just a safe space to talk

15 Min. Complimentary Call

Very few counselors ever talk about this - but I do.

I’ve worked with men who now feel so guilty over what they had done in literally ordering the death of their baby.

They insisted upon it.

They quickly

abandoned their girl they got pregnant.

That casual sex was VERY costly in more

ways than one, huh?

On the other hand, I’ve

met with men who are so angry

Not only with themselves for being so selfish – but

at their partner because they wanted this

baby.

Their voice and choice were ignored.

For him, the greatest news of his life has become the greatest sadness of his life and there’s no one for him to share this.

You're Not the Only One Who Feels This Way

Men rarely get permission to grieve this openly — not from friends, not from culture, sometimes not even from themselves.

So the grief gets buried under silence, or anger, or busyness. But it doesn't disappear. It shows up later — in relationships, in how you see yourself as a man, in ways you might not even connect back to what happened.

You don't have to have the "right" feelings about it. You just have to be honest.

What This Might Look Like For You

Grief you've never been allowed to name or express
Guilt over a decision you made, agreed to, or couldn't stop
Anger — at yourself, at the situation, at feeling powerless in it
Difficulty connecting emotionally in later relationships without knowing why
A sense that you don't have the "right" to be hurting about this
Carrying this completely alone, even from people closest to you

The Truth Underneath the Silence

Your grief is real, and it's allowed. Being a man doesn't mean this loss didn't happen to you too. Healing doesn't require you to have had control over the decision — it just requires you to finally stop pretending it didn't affect you.

Forgiveness, including forgiving yourself, is available — not as something you have to earn, but as something you're invited into.

How Dr. Sam Can Help

Dr. Sam creates space for men and boys to process grief they've been told isn't theirs to have. He helps you:

Name and process grief you've likely never spoken about
Work through guilt, anger, or helplessness tied to what happened
Understand how this loss may be quietly shaping your relationships now
Move toward real healing instead of silent endurance

This isn't about being lectured. It's about finally being understood.

Freedom & Restoration Success Story

Real Stories from Clients Finding Hope, Healing & Restoration

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"knowing that God will not forget what he did to me and how he hurt me brings me the comfort that I needed since I could do nothing about it. I've let it go now because of your good advice, Sam."

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"Thank you for telling me that hard truth that I've been consumed with this guy for so many years after what he did. You're right: he sure hasn't been thinking about me. You've set me free, Sam."

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"What you are doing is from your heart, and it's wonderful and so necessary. I appreciate how much you've helped me to heal from the trauma I had when I was younger. It's exactly what I needed."

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"I have finally forgiven myself for those two abortions I had. Thank you, Dr. Serio, for walking alongside me and helping me heal. My nightmares are gone, and I feel like a brand new person."

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"One of my friends told me to call you since you're not shocked by anything being a Christian. She told me that you were easy to talk to and that I could trust you with my secrets. What was done to me is not even done to dogs! That gang rape in my high school football game really messed me up, and I felt so ashamed and angry for so many years. Thank you for helping me to heal and regain my confidence back. I'll never know why, but I now forgive them, and my life is so much better."

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"Thank you, Dr. Sam, for reminding me that... what God has done for me by dying on the cross is far better than what one man did to me when he raped me. WHO lives inside of me far surpasses WHAT he did inside of me. That's what I need to remember over and over in the future!"

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"Dr. Sam Serio's wisdom comes from years of research into and experience dealing with tough topics. As a survivor of sexual abuse, I can personally say that his wisdom on sexual abuse is not only brilliant but also much needed. He has a passion to apply the Word of God to address our pain."

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